|Taken two days before Michael left for Macau.|
What a strange Father's Day! This year, Michael is in Macau away from his family, and my boys are up staying with my own Dad while I buckle down and work 'round the clock to finish the packing without little kids around, demanding attention since it's now Summer Vacation and they don't know what to do with themselves! But I do get to have dinner with my Father in Law, so at least I get to celebrate with one of the fathers in my life!
I mailed a bunch of Father's Day and Anniversary cards to Michael, but I'm afraid they won't arrive until after he's already back here in the US to collect us. We'll see! There have been plenty of Mother's Days that Michael has been out of town (State, Country), but this is Michael's first Father's Day away from his family. Wednesday is our 15th wedding anniversary, which we will also spend apart. For most of the boys' birthdays, Michael has been out of town. About a year ago I put my foot down and said NO MORE. Birthdays are extremely important to me, and the disappointment the boys had when their Daddy wasn't around for theirs was so painful to witness. So now the new rule is that Michael has to be here for them. And Benjamin, who turns 8 on the day Michael flies home from Macau, has been telling everyone who will listen how his favorite present this year will be picking up his Daddy from the airport. Sure, he'll be tired and stiff from a long flight, but Michael is a wonderful father and he'll pull the energy out of somewhere (probably Starbucks) to make Ben's day special. I just wish I could do the same to make Michael's Father's Day special. I love that man so much!
I was reflecting this morning how very important relationships with our fathers are, and how a good one or a bad one can have consequences throughout our lives. My Dad taught me a lot, but one of the most important things he did was to be the perfect gentleman. He treated women with respect, and loved my Mom through his attitude and actions toward her. He also taught me that I was worthy of finding a man who would treat me the same way. Sure I dated other guys before I met Michael. And there were plenty of first dates that didn't have a second because the guy didn't open the car door for me. And then I met Michael, who not only opened the car door for me, but he handed me my seat belt and locked the door before closing it (before automatic locks). He treated me like the princess that my Dad always assured me I was. So I'm incredibly grateful to my Father-in-law, who is another perfect gentleman, who passed these traits down to his son. Without these two men, Michael and I would not be celebrating 15 years of marriage this week. My hope and prayer is that my boys will grow up to be the kind of men who would make their Grandfathers proud. With such strong examples to learn from, I think they will.
Happy Father's Day to all you Dads, and to the men who step in to be father-figures to those who need it. You make the world a better place. Thank you!